Responsibility & Interaction with Son

Financial support

He claims he did for our son since birth. He did not buy or pay for anything for our son during the first 7 months of his life (aside from one box of unnecessary diapers- we had plenty). I paid for childcare and medical costs alone until I called him out for not paying anything at which point he provided the approx. $125 for our son’s copay.

(R likes to say he was paying for the roof and utilities where we lived – he walked himself into that scenario. R talked about marriage, later sharing that he did not want to risk losing his house so he did not want to marry through the state. I never expected to be placed on the deed and with his train of thought he was going to continue to pay for his house on his own until we brought something together. I am thankful it never got to that.)

When informed of the need for R to start paying for childcare for a few months as my school requirements changed, he refused to, but eventually did for 5 months at my insistence.

Middle of November 2017.

After those 5 months R stated via text he would only pay ($270) for half of our son’s childcare and claimed he was buying food, clothes, and diapers none of which I ever saw and none of which were used outside of two days every two weeks if he really bought any of what he said.

My son’s insurance has always been under me because R told me he did not want to have the money come from his paycheck…..that is until he tried to get his child support lowered (2 years after our son was born) and signed up through his employer despite it being in the order that I was covering our son.

R attended 3 appointments out of the 28-30 that I had during my pregnancy. Of those 3, he left from one because he did not want to put in leave. R would amend his one hour lunch to come to those 3 appointments and based on R’s account he lied to his job with Atlanta schools in IT when he vanished for more than one hour stating he was at a school. He was so set on not using his leave and not telling his employer that he had a baby coming that he took no leave after the baby was born except the one time I insisted which upset him.
When the baby started kicking, I asked R to feel the kicks. R placed his hand on my stomach and as soon as the baby kicked, he jerked his hand back saying, “Ill! I’ll wait until he is here”.
R mostly engaged with our son during the first year of his life with my prodding. The few times he burped him, or watched him at night (while we were still in the house) was because I insisted.
Visits with our son upon moving out started because I contacted R after 1 month in which he had not attempted to see him. Him picking up our son from daycare a few days a week was at my direction as I had school.
Paying childcare cost for months 7-11 and utilizing weekend visits during this time was because I suggested he did that.
When we moved from the area, he chose not to ask for our address and chose not to call. He called after 4 months following communications with my father and his father who was more interested in seeing our son than he.
R had every opportunity to see our son after we left the area and he chose not to call but twice.
Although I told R he could see him and to just let me know so we can make arrangements, there was never another call to my phone about our son until mid 2021 (we left the area the last quarter of 2018).
R told the court it is because I am belligerent….one of his projections. I cussed him out one good time and it makes me belligerent, but he creates arguments month after month for years and he is supposedly reasonable…

R refused to let his supervisor know he had a child. She found out when he was 7 months because I went to the office (that R previously claimed I couldn’t access when I surprised him with the baby for lunch – hear audio)
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- On the day R’s supervisor found out about our son, our son was sick and I gave R notice the night prior that he would need to care for him the following day as I had been taking off to care for him previously (and each time after this event). I informed R that morning he could go to work for a few hours as we were both up throughout the night.
- I notified R a hour ahead of time before he would need to leave work (he got in a half a day) I could tell he was irritated. When I went to introduce myself to his boss without notice and (checking in with security), she reported she did not know he had a child and now understood why he had to “suddenly” leave. She noted she could tell that he was bothered because he gets quiet when he gets upset.
Bronchiolitis: I sent our son to R for the weekend and gave him specific directions on administering his newly prescribed breathing medication which included the need to set alarms to wake up. I sent 8 treatments although he only needed 7 for the time period he would be there. R told me that he had given him all of his treatments (his breathing was worse than when I dropped him off). Upon opening the case to give him a treatment there were 5 unused vials. R’s excuse….. “he didn’t want it” and “we were sleep”. **There were 5 vials left and should have been no more than one left.**

R has sent our son home soaked as a baby (He claimed he spilled water on his pants. The diaper was filled to the point where it would have busted if it was a different brand.) R also left him in wet clothes as a toddler (video).
- Our son’s pants were wet evenly all the way around, from the top of the pants to mid-thigh indicating more than a spill.
- Our son had dry clothes in his bag (tops & pants). The temperature was about 60 and cloudy.
- What you don’t see in the video is R peer over his shoulder and cut his eyes as he continues to his father’s running car.

R has refused to properly secure our son’s car seat as a baby and again as a toddler (video) despite multiple requests from me for him to do so and explaining how.
- In the video I gave an effortless push with my fingertips. Imagine it with a little more force.

Once our son started regular visits with R again, he became hooked on video games and T.V shows geared towards children 2+ years older than him at the time. He previously had no trouble putting down a game or tablet and did not get worked up as he now does about a game outcome.

Are there things he appears to do as a “loving father” would?…..absolutely, but are we giving kudos for doing what any reasonable parent would?…I’m outlining the many unreasonable and problematic things a reasonable parent would not do.

R touts things he does sporadically as proof of his involvement. Understand that these are things a parent should do…he is not doing anything extraordinary.
He told the court that he was caring for our son overnight the first few months after his birth (while we were living in the same house)… False: He would complain about being tired because I told him he needs to burp our son once a night after I fed him, despite me waking every two hours to feed him.
- One time I told him I was dead tired and passed him the baby. He stayed up with him the rest of that morning while I rested. One day in the 1st two weeks R patted his back two times and laid him down knowing he hadn’t burped. After that I did it myself.
He claims to have purchased our son clothes, food, and diapers during the first 6 months of his life:
- His aunt works at Burlington in NJ and sent clothes at least monthly with her own money without R paying her back.
- Aside from this, our son had clothes and diapers from the baby shower that took him past the first 6 months of his life. R randomly brought diapers one time just to say he bought them as we still had months of diapers left. He also brought diapers a couple of times after our son reached 7 months.
- Our son nursed and once he started eating food it was food I purchased when I went grocery shopping.
R randomly showed up to one soccer game in nearly 2 years (a 2 hour drive) which occurred when he knew we were heading back to court due to stalling on his end. However, R never took him to a game or practice while he’s with him despite him knowing the schedules.
- When asked if he would contribute to any of the sports registration, uniform, and equipment costs, R did not respond and (based on our son) bought him toy soccer equipment instead.
R sent money orders to my parents house for 3 months after we moved from the area (I did not live there nor did he call or ask for my address).
- He had not provided any financial support for 3 months prior and only did this after my father told him to do it so that it looks like he was paying child support (my father and R are much the same)- I was not a part of this agreement and did not know about it for months.
No money was sent after those 3 months and R did not pay court ordered child support for 5 months once he was on it.

Our Moves

Each time we moved (my son and I) I told R.

I gave him nearly two months notice when we were leaving his house, but he kept trying to keep me there and tried manipulating me into staying.

2 days later he apologized and said he was not cosigning…money for childcare was a factor based on what he said in our conversation. The end of Nov. 2017 letting him know I’m still moving. He’s concerned about what I’m taking so the neighbors don’t notice.
I gave him a much shorter notice when I was leaving GA, but I told him and I did not have to. Why the shorter notice?

I knew I did not want to remain in GA for years before I met R and shared this with him, but stayed because we (Mirage & I) were building. R has always refused to discuss my concerns about his sexual boundaries and our son. He has always deflected. So when we split and he continuously refused to communicate about my concerns for our son’s safety when with him, refused to provide fair financial support for our son, and refused to care for his health, I knew that it was time for me to follow what I needed and that was to move.
I was struggling with moving our son away from R (did not move to where I desired because of this) and did not want to be guilted or manipulated into not staying true to myself. In this struggle, I questioned why I am considering him so much when he does not care to be a healthy parent and thought perhaps it could be good to put some distance between them to ensure our son’s safety. However, I made sure to move close enough where it would not be nearly impossible for them to see one another (and the one time he tried to see him out of a more than 1 year time period, I drove to GA for him to see him).
When I told R….in his car upon pick up after a weekend visit with our son….he said nothing. He did not ask where we would move to, when he could see him….Nothing! After moments of silence and me staring at him he shrugged his shoulders and put his hands up….much like the emoji.

His 2020 testimony regarding his attempt or lack of to find out where we Lived

My supposed belligerence (Oct. 2016)

He is upset about my daughter’s father in this audio.

R upset because I am still moving (Nov. 2017)

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